my son is so naughty.help

message: So sorry I called your little boy Joshua, I meant Jamie. I'm afraid with being 8 months pregnant my hormones are all over the place, forget what day of the week it is sometimes.
Take care
Louise x

message: hi louise,id like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing such an aquarate post,everything you have said in your message is exactly how i feel.I think that i must seem awful to complain about his behaviour as hes here fighting and i have said to my friends and family that i think hes angry and maybe hes angry with me as he hasnt got the understanding of ewhats going on that we have.Its so difficult as i let ther rules slip as we didint know if he would be here tomorrow and i didnt want the memories of precious moments being of me chastising him for his very unruly behaviour.Its now reaching a point where its not fair on the other two children i have as they've seen jamie get away with so much already and now my eldest is asking me why and to be truthful i havent got an answer other than jamie was very ill.i spoke to a nurse on njamies ward and she said that she often hears parents complain about this at som time during treatment but ive not really had anyone to talk to so i decided to put post on here.thankyou for your response,ill keep you updated,good liuck with the pregnancy,pls stay intouch.much luv,janine

message: Hi
I totally understand what your going through, as i seem to be having the same behaviour from my son who is 10yrs old. I think its as you said months or doing what they want as you fear the worst. I have tried to start to going back to telling him off as hes 10 he loses his priveledges unless his behavior changes, i too thou am still finding this hard to stick to in the fear of something happening as he has just finished radiotherapy and we are awaiting results which take 3 months. I also am having trouble with my other son who is 8yrs as he feels he gets told off and perry doesn't, so i do feel like im going round in circles. i am hoping gradually bringing the discipline back will finally work. But nice to know i'm not alone in this,

message: wow,im so pleased that other people know how this feels,i try talking to friends about jamies behaviour but i just know they are judging me for complaining about the behaviour because at least hes still here to play up,i was very nervous about putting a post on this site but if anyone is going to know exactly what im going through its people such as yourselves in the same situations. I have been fairly strict with jamie since my last post and i had about 4 days where his behaviour was appalling,he was smacking me and screaming so loud but i stood my ground with him but tried to be loving etc with him at the same time and so far hes calmed down.im not going to say we are over it as hes just started the maintanance period and the chemo is making him very sleepy so it might just be a case of not having the energy tp misbehave. ill keep you all posted with how hes getting on but im so pleased that im not alone in this,thankyou for replying to me.

message: Hi Neaney, I really understand how you feel. My four year old has just finished intense treatment for lymphoma and has been spoilt in every way including making many different meals one after the other just to get her to eat. She has full blown tantrums when something upsets her and I have found the best way is to put her somewhere safe (sofa or her own room) and leave her for a few minutes. I go back in to check on her and she is often still screaming but quite often if she is starting to 'slow down' I can manage to get her on my knee and hug her. She usually manages to calm down within about five minutes while I keep holding (sometimes having to stop her kicking etc.) Its not foolproof but if nothing else it helps keep me calm instead of ending up shouting at her. I hope this helps in some way. We have been at home now for three months and it does get better. I have also put all our routines back in place, mealtimes, bedtimes etc. and think that helps too. Good luck, kate